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You are now managing the four people you were competing with on Friday
A thirty day plan for an internal promotion, which is the hardest version of this and the one nobody prepares you for.
Most first-manager advice assumes you arrive from outside. You did not. You have worked alongside these four for two years, one of them applied for your job, and you were all in the same group chat until last week. That changes the first thirty days substantially and it is what this plan is built around.
Priya applied for this role and did not get it. Nothing in the next thirty days will work properly until that has been acknowledged directly, by you, in week one. Every other item here is ordinary and this one is not.
The hard one
The conversation with Priya
Have it in week one, in person, before your first team meeting. Not because it will be comfortable, but because everyone on the team knows and is watching how you handle it.
| Do | Do not |
|---|---|
| Name it directly in the first minute | Wait for her to raise it, which she will not |
| Say you know she applied and that it was close | Explain why you got it. That is not yours to explain |
| Ask what she wants from the next year | Promise her the next promotion |
| Ask how she wants to work with you | Assume nothing has changed between you |
| Follow up in writing on anything you agreed | Leave it as a warm conversation with no outcome |
| Accept that it may be awkward for months | Try to fix the awkwardness in one conversation |
The second row on the right matters. If she asks why you got it, the honest answer is that you do not know the full reasoning and she should ask the person who decided. Attempting to justify the decision puts you in a position you cannot defend.
Weeks 1 to 4
The plan
- Week 1
Four one-to-ones, same three questions
What should I keep doing as a team, what should change, and what do you want from me that you did not get before. Write the answers down in front of them. Ask nothing else in week one.
- Week 1
The Priya conversation, before the team meeting
Section 01.
- Week 1
Say the awkward thing out loud to the team
One sentence at the first team meeting: this is odd for all of us, I would rather name it than pretend. Then move on. It buys more goodwill than anything else available to you.
- Week 2
Change nothing
The strongest instinct of a new internal manager is to prove the promotion by improving something. Resist it for a fortnight. You are still gathering the information from week one.
- Week 2
Decide what you are no longer doing
You cannot keep your old workload and manage four people. Write down what you are handing over and to whom, and tell your own manager.
- Week 3
One change, announced with a reason
Small, visible, and from what they told you in week one. Not your own idea. The first change you make should be one of theirs.
- Week 4
Ask for feedback, properly
What has been different since I started, and what do you wish I would do more of. Asking in month one sets a pattern that is very hard to establish in month six.
Habits
Four things that decide whether this works
| Frequency | Why it matters here | Risk if skipped | |
|---|---|---|---|
| One-to-ones, 30 min | Weekly, never cancelled | You are no longer in the room for informal chat | You find out about problems last |
| Write down commitments | Every conversation | As a peer you could forget things. Now you cannot | Trust erodes quietly |
| Praise specifically, in public | Weekly | Cheap, and the thing new managers most underuse | Nothing bad. Just nothing good |
| Correct privately, within 48 hours | As needed | You will want to let things go because these are your friends | Standards drift and you resent them |
| Stop doing their work | Continuously | You are faster than them at it. That is now irrelevant | You burn out and they do not grow |
The last row is the one that gets internally promoted managers. You know how to do the work, you can see it being done more slowly, and stepping in feels like helping. It is the single most reliable way to fail at this transition.
Over to you
Four questions for the week two check-in
- After the four one-to-ones: what did you hear that you did not expect? Write it down before you forget it, because month one is the only time people tell you the truth easily.
- Which of the four are you most worried about managing, and is that about them or about your history with them?
- What part of your old job are you most reluctant to hand over? That reluctance is going to cost you about a day a week.
- How did the Priya conversation actually go, in her words rather than yours?
You do not have to become a different person on Monday. The only thing that genuinely has to change is that you now write things down and follow up on them. Most of what people call good management is that, done reliably, for a year.
Coach note, day one